Also look for a therapist who is caring and compassionate to both of you and doesn't take sides.
A therapist should keep control of sessions and not allow you to interrupt each other, talk over each other, speak for each other, or have heated exchanges.
"We aren't taught how to be in relationships or deal with the conflicts that come up," Mc Nulty says.
"There are very basic things people can learn about friendship and conflict that make total sense, are easy to do, and can really help.
On the other hand, there are those that are uneasy about speaking with a complete stranger about life's concerns.
Licensed marriage and family therapists (LMFTs) are likely to have more training as well.
By this time, you and your partner should feel you're communicating with each other in a more positive and effective manner, Mc Nulty says.