Dating rules for young adults
Joyner said, '' Maybe we learn something from our early relationships, so that as adults, we're better off.'' Dr. Based on modern research, parents of Romeos and Juliets could do worse than to embrace their own parents' standards for teenage dating: adult supervision and some basic rules, like curfews.
Miriam Kaufman, a pediatrician and an associate professor at the University of Toronto Medical School and the author of the book '' Overcoming Teen Depression,'' agreed with Dr. Researchers also urge adults to be alert to signs that a relationship is too consuming, reduces other social contacts or incites jealousy and feelings of ownership or coercion -- risk factors for partner abuse that, Dr.
Among the so-called ''tweens'' of middle school, Dr.
Ehrensaft described the hypothetical case of a troubled girl, whose delinquent behavior reflected a lack of social supports that also put her at high risk for early pregnancy.'' She quickly becomes committed to a riskier older man in an unsupervised setting, which is where the bad guys are,'' said Dr. '' Very soon, it's hard for outsiders to penetrate that bond and hard for her to withdraw from it, even if it's abusive.'' Such couples, she added, ''stack the odds for their children to have similar problems.'' Although romantic relationships have risks, especially for troubled teenagers, Dr.
When they fell in love, she was barely into her teens, and he wasn't much older.
Some saw a star-crossed couple who found understanding, joy and maturity in each other's arms.
Kara Joyner, a sociologist at Cornell University, who conducted the study with Dr. Richard Udry, director of the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, based at the University of North Carolina.
But it remains unclear whether being in a relationship invites depression, or whether melancholic youngsters are more likely to pair up than carefree peers. Joyner says ''the causal arrow can go both ways.'' The confusion over whether romance creates troubled teenagers, or troubled teenagers are disproportionately interested in romance, helps account for the widespread ambivalence about adolescents' dating and relationships, said Dr.
Silverman said, do not necessarily appear early on. Furman, red flags are raised by ''precocious daters'' who pair off before their peers, and by ''uneven, inequitable relationships,'' in which one partner is controlling and the other dependent. Ehrensaft said she would be concerned about the relationships of teenagers who were already depressed or troubled and about partners who were more than two years apart in age.