Girls that prefer dating gay boys
Unless you want to be thrown into a haphazard mix of other lesbian newbies at a bi-monthly girl party at a massive nightclub, you have to to find out where the experienced lesbians gather. We don't like things that are too easily available, and the dating scene is no different.
Our culture is like a secret designer sample sale advertised only to an exclusive group of people "in the know." (Oh, but once you get inside, you discover it was worth waiting on that pesky long lesbian line).
That's when I started matching with the girls I liked. I think this was one of the biggest points of stress I faced when I first started dating girls. Here is what I learned after years and years of relentless bill anxiety: You can, of course, split the check. The lines can already get easily blurred between friendship and love in lesbian land, so I think it's important to draw distinct lines. If you're racked with fear about the whole bill thing, I have a simple solution: Offer to pay the bill. However, if the girl you're on a date with is vehement about paying the bill, let her pay, babes. If you like that look, wear all the blazers your heart desires.
But if that's not your jam, don't feel the pressure to play the part. One of the best parts about the girl-on-girl dynamic is that there isn't really any slut-shaming (as far as my experience goes) in our culture. When you celebrate the core of who you are, all the formerly displaced pieces will fall into place. Being true to yourself gets you tapped into your instincts on a whole other level.
Maybe it was my aloofness that drew in the dudes (straight girls take note), but damn, dudes were easy like ~Sunday morning~.
All you have to do is bat a lash, act entirely disinterested, cold and bitchy, and boys will fall at your feet.
Have you ever come across a nice guy who tries to attract a girl, but always fails?
Maybe your plumber is a lesbian (for real, though). Karma will surely bite her in the ass, and she will die, sexless and surrounded by aging cats. And if you can't find a lesbian mentor, don't worry. I want to date her..." into conversation every now and then. Before you know it, word will be out on the street, and straight friends will set you up with their gay friends.
Recently, I've been getting a lot of private Facebook messages from baby lesbians who are freshly out of the closet and asking me all kinds of questions:"How do I date girls? I will never forget how terrified I was when I first realized I wanted to exclusively swim in the girl pond. I exerted zero effort into attracting boy creatures, but I learned quickly that I didn't really need to.
It can feel wildly intimidating to be a little, vulnerable kitten tossed into a teeming cesspool of seasoned dykes.
There are so many "straight" girls on Tinder who are just seeking out threesomes with their boyfriends. And I don't know about you, but I crave r-o-m-a-n-c-e. I know it's new to you, but a date is a date is a date, and if she wants to pay, let the bitch pay. You can be a fully femme lipstick lez and enjoy taking a girl out for a night on the town. You and the chick you're dating will figure out a rhythm that works for you. If you want to wear mega heels and shocking pink lipstick, rock it, girl.
This has made lesbians understandably cynical and bitter, so anyone who lands on the femme spectrum might be met with suspicion. I'm very outwardly girly (but inside, I'm a total fiery TOP), and I would come to find that all the girls I thought were cute initially assumed I was a straight girl seeking a threesome, or a bicurious entity looking to experiment. I put in my profile: Totally gay, seeking the same. I would rather foot the entire bill (and I'm not a rich power lesbian, YET) over going dutch any day of the week. You're not robbed of being romantically indulged just because you're a lesbian. You can be a top and a bottom, both in sex and money, honey. Don't feel like now that you're gay you have to cut your hair off and exclusively wear blazers. Unfortunately for us, when we decide we prefer riding the queer train and hop off at station "Girl-On-Girl," there is no tour guide to greet us and lead the way (which is particularly sad, seeing as lesbians make for excellent tour guides).